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Sharing their story, so they are never forgotten

· By Remember Me · 3 min read

People are not forgotten when they die. They are forgotten when their stories stop being told. The good news is that keeping someone's memory alive doesn't take grand gestures. It takes a place to keep the story, people to share it with, and a few small habits.

An illustration of an open book with a forget-me-not above it, connected to family members, a globe and a calendar with a heart

Start with the people who knew them

The richest memorials are written by many hands. A grandchild remembers the songs, a sister remembers the childhood house, an old friend remembers the person before anyone called them "Mum" or "Grandpa".

Invite them in. In Remember Me you can send a private invitation as a link, by email or as a QR code, and choose whether each person can only read or can also add chapters, photos and memories. You don't have to write it all yourself, and you shouldn't have to.

A simple question often opens the door: "What is one thing you remember about them that nobody else might know?"

Decide what the wider world may read

Some stories are for the family alone. Others deserve to reach further: a teacher whose students should know where they came from, a nurse who cared for a whole town, a grandmother whose recipes and sayings belong to everyone she fed.

Every memorial in Remember Me is private by default. If you are its owner or an admin, you can now choose to publish a public page, and you decide exactly what goes on it:

  • each piece of their story separately: the biography, the tribute, the dates, each chapter, each life event and each photo;
  • for relatives, their name and relation, and only if you also choose it, their photo;
  • nothing else. Everything you don't switch on stays private.

A first public page is unlisted: only people with the link can find it. Photos are re-saved without their hidden location data. Nothing changes on the public page until you press Update and see what will be shown, and you can unpublish it at any time. The FAQ has the details.

Be gentle with the living

A life story always touches other people. Before you make anything public, think about the relatives still with us: their names, their faces, their own private moments. When in doubt, ask them, or leave that part for the family only. A story told with care is one people are glad to share.

Small habits that keep a story told

Memory fades quietly, so it helps to give it small, regular moments:

  • On their birthday or anniversary, add one memory, one photo or one sentence. Over years these become a second story of their own.
  • Record voices while you can. Ask an aunt or a grandfather to tell a story out loud, and add the recording to the memorial.
  • Write down the everyday things: the phrase they always said, the dish they made on Sundays, the way they answered the phone. These are the details that slip away first.
  • Read it together. Open the memorial at a family gathering and let the youngest ones ask questions.
  • Share it with someone new. When a child grows old enough to ask about their great-grandmother, you will have something to show them.

Never forgotten

Love doesn't end; it changes shape. Keeping their story, and choosing carefully who it is shared with, is one of the quietest and most lasting ways to love someone who is gone. Or someone still here, whose story you want to keep while you can.

If you have a question about sharing a memorial, write to us at support@remember-me.app.